Learning that your child is exhibiting behavior problems in kindergarten can be very disheartening. The prospect of meeting with the teacher can make even seasoned parents feel worried and anxious. Help prepare for the meeting by collecting your thoughts and considering the questions you need to ask the teacher. Prepare to work collaboratively with the teacher to resolve your child's behavior issues.

Behavior at School

When you meet with your child's teacher, she will describe the specific behavior issues your child is experiencing in the classroom. Discuss the situations that occur before the misbehavior, as this can help you determine why your child is misbehaving. For example, it could be a result of frustration or transitions. You can ask the teacher how your child's behavior is handled. It is also important to note whether the behavior issues are having an effect on your child's academic performance.

Behavior Outside School

There may be similarities in the behavior your child exhibits at home and the behavior her teacher has observed. These patterns may also exist at daycare, friends' and relatives' homes or at organized activities such as swimming lessons. If similar behavior problems are occurring outside school, it is important to be consistent with expectations in each setting. Coordinating with the teacher can ensure the consistent use of strategies to help your child learn proper behaviors.


It is beneficial to work together in a partnership with your child's teacher to help resolve behavior problems. Regular and open communication with the teacher allows you to monitor your child's progress. It is important to choose a method of communication that works well for both you and the teacher, such as notes home, phone calls or e-mail. It may also be beneficial to inform the teacher if your child is having a bad day or experiencing other issues that could affect his behavior.

Next Steps

You can ask the teacher if there are further steps that should be taken to resolve your child's behavior issues. For example, your child may benefit from additional support at the school level or an assessment completed by a private clinician. It may be helpful to observe her in the classroom to better understand the nature of the issues she is experiencing. At the conclusion of the meeting, you should be knowledgeable of the specific actions both you and the teacher are going to take to support your child.

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About the Author

Mother of two, Erin Agnello writes about parenting, relationships, and education. She has been teaching since 2001 and works in special education and early literacy. Agnello holds a B.A. in psychology from Wilfrid Laurier University and a B.Ed. from Windsor University.